I consulted 65 pastors before I married Foluke Daramola

She washes my underwear and can recite 25 Psalms in the Bible – Come, Mr man, how many Psalms can you recite off hand? Oh I guess you don’t  need to, one of the criteria of a good wife is one who is  a prayer warrior and can pray for more than one hour.

He loves my legs and I wear short skirt for him at him- if you like wear bum shorts, if he wants to leave he will follow someone who wears covers up every part of her body.

I wash his undies and cook a special diet – Who gives a flying shit. You can as well take a tissue and wipe his ass for him after he goes to the toilet. I wonder why you guys didn’t divulge your bedroom antics.

Not sure I understand why they have to announce to us that she washes his underwear, but hey I guess that’s one of the characteristics of a virtuous  and submissive wife in addition to cooking and cleaning.

I didn’t read about what he does to make her happy, to make her want to remain in the marriage, all I read was what she is doing to stay married to him.

We honestly need to reset our brains….Rubbish!!!!

See article below:

Kayode Salako, the husband of Yoruba Nollywood actress, Foluke Daramola, revealed how he consulted 65 pastors before marrying the actress on February 15 2013.

The activist cum businessman talked about some moments they shared in their three-and-a-half-year old union. When asked if he was skeptical when he wanted to marry a divorcee since he was also divorced at that time, he said:

“I did not fancy Nigerian actresses. When I met Foluke, she never proved to me that she was the sterotypical actress. She is a very good cook, washes my underwear, she is homely and not outgoing. In fact, I now prefer her to go out. She prefers to be at home with her husband and the children. She is very reasonable, mentally upright, focus and ambitious. She is godly and she can recite 25 psalms in the Bible off hand. She is not money conscious, fun to be with and till date, we still live as friends. We have many things in common.

We are activists, we both believe in fighting for our rights.” Asked about how his family reacted when he wanted to marry a ‘divorced actress’, he said: “I wasn’t expecting to marry a perfect woman. I have decided to be her father, her boss, her friend and a teacher. When I was getting married, I told everyone in my family to go all out and make inquiries if she is my wife. I consulted about 65 pastors before I made up my mind on her.”

When asked who apologises when there is a misunderstanding, Foluke said: “I was in a marriage before, so making amends when there is a wrong is no problem. Most of the time, I say, ‘I’m sorry,’ it does not cost anything to apologise. If not given, it can degenerate to anything. Fortunately, he does not suffer from inferiority complex. The kind of upbringing I have is contentment and love. I want to have my husband, children and run my home.

When we were about getting married, my father-in-law was skeptical and some of his siblings. I made everybody realise that acting is a profession, which I happen to find myself.”

Kayode said: “Foluke is stubbornly reasonable but quick to accept her fault. She kneels down and apologises and sometimes, sheds tears to show she is indeed sorry. I love her very much, she is like my baby and I don’t fail to tell her when she is wrong. Our quarrel doesn’t last an hour. We are not in this marriage by accident but by the will of God.”

On what makes a marriage successful, Kayode said: “Maintain that channel of communication. Discuss it all because when you don’t tell her she might not know. Secondly, understand each other. Know your wife and who she is. You must also be friends. Also a man should learn to overlook especially if you are married to a celebrity. I read a book where a writer said nothing is a problem, only thinking makes it so. If you attach meanings to every issue, marriage heads for the rocks. Not all the time should you overlook but when you want to make a complaint let it be in the confines of your bedroom. Let the man be mentally mature too and be confident in himself. Also, learn to share.

A man should not allow his wife do all the chores and he wants to share her money with her, it fails. She is not your slave, she is a human being that deserves happiness.” Foluke then said: “The woman is motivated by what she hears and the man, what he sees. Women make the mistake of not spicing up their marriage. What are those things that attracted him to you? Then, don’t stop. He loves my legs and I wear short skirts at home for him. You have to put your man on his toes.

Read books and know what excite your marriage. Also, men don’t tell their wives ‘I love you.’ Pay her compliments. I wash his undies, cook special diet. In fact celebs go the extra mile to make marriage work. We try to pamper, make men feel special and want homes. We need confident men. Take care of your man. Say, ‘I love you’. My husband tells me every morning, ‘I love you.’

Culled from WeddingBlogNG


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