Chris Attoh blames his wife for their failed marriage.

So, now we know that the marriage between Actor Chris Attoh and Damilola Adegbite is over.

Chris, who appeared on a radio show, said the reason most marriages don’t work is that ‘we’ have forgotten what the fundamentals of marriage are. I take it that by “we” he meant the woman because everything he said, was literally just blaming his for the failure of their union. Well, that’s not a surprise, men have always blamed women for everything since the days of the Garden of Eden.

So, he said;

Man is probably better off on his own, but if you do find a wife, you have found a good thing. So that’s an addition. You (the woman) are an addition to that destiny. A woman who does not submit to her husband and trust his instinct is not going to be successful in marriage.

I think we have forgotten about the fundamentals of marriage. “When you love someone, it is important to be able to forgive, to be able to respect, to be able to submit. As a woman, you need to trust the captain of the ship. It’s really important if you want peace in your home, that’s something that you really need to consider.

If you are a Christian, it is your bible that will take you through your wedding days, he said


At this day and age, we are still taking about headship and submission. I really don’t understand why we are so obsessed with this head and submission matter. When are we going to stop using marriage  and the Bible as a tool to subjugate women?

“Trust the Captain of the Ship, if you want peace in your home”. I cannot for the life of me, understand why that that Captain should always be a MAN? Are all men, by default born leaders? Are we saying that that men, come into this world with the innate wiring to be leaders, and women don’t? What is wrong with all you “the man is the head” people huh?? So, we should just always follow blindly, because we are women, abi? We should turn to mumu, so that men can feel like bosses?

“A woman is an addition to a Man’s destiny” he says.  Meaning, a woman solely exists because of a man.  We do not have our own destiny, but we exist to help the man build his. We exist simply to fix and serve men because they are our destiny.

We exist just to stroke and cuddle the man’s so-called ego, we are always told what to do and what not to do to please and make men feel comfortable.

Don’t speak in an argument, so that a man would not turn you into a punching bag.

Don’t be more successful and richer that your husband, because you would not be submissive to the man.

Don’t be too successful, it will scare men away.

He sounded like someone who was abusive and controlling and expected the his wife to tolerate and overlook all his bad behaviours, because she is a woman.

Like my dear Chimamanda said, never, ever accept ‘because you are a Woman’ as a reason for doing or not doing anything.

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